[performance] handle emoji refreshes asynchronously when fetched as part of account|status dereferences (#4486)

# Description

Updates our dereferencer emoji handling to work asynchronously when going through the route of account or status dereferencing.

closes https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/issues/4485

## Checklist

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- [x] I/we have not leveraged AI to create the proposed changes.
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Reviewed-on: https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/pulls/4486
Co-authored-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>
Co-committed-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>

internal/federation/dereferencing/emoji_test.go

@@ -54,6 +54,7 @@ func (suite *EmojiTestSuite) TestDereferenceEmojiBlocking() {
 			VisibleInPicker:      &emojiVisibleInPicker,
 		},
 		false,
+		false,
 	)
 	suite.NoError(err)
 	suite.NotNil(emoji)