[performance] overhaul struct (+ result) caching library for simplicity, performance and multiple-result lookups (#2535)

* rewrite cache library as codeberg.org/gruf/go-structr, implement in gotosocial

* use actual go-structr release version (not just commit hash)

* revert go toolchain changes (damn you go for auto changing this)

* fix go mod woes

* ensure %w is used in calls to errs.Appendf()

* fix error checking

* fix possible panic

* remove unnecessary start/stop functions, move to main Cache{} struct, add note regarding which caches require start/stop

* fix copy-paste artifact... 😇

* fix all comment copy-paste artifacts

* remove dropID() function, now we can just use slices.DeleteFunc()

* use util.Deduplicate() instead of collate(), move collate to util

* move orderByIDs() to util package and "generify"

* add a util.DeleteIf() function, use this to delete entries on failed population

* use slices.DeleteFunc() instead of util.DeleteIf() (i had the logic mixed up in my head somehow lol)

* add note about how collate differs from deduplicate

cmd/gotosocial/action/server/server.go

@@ -133,7 +133,7 @@ var Start action.GTSAction = func(ctx context.Context) error {
 		time.Time{},   // start
 		time.Minute,   // freq
 		func(context.Context, time.Time) {
-			state.Caches.Sweep(80)
+			state.Caches.Sweep(60)
 		},
 	)