[performance] cache more database calls, reduce required database calls overall (#3290)

* improvements to caching for lists and relationship to accounts / follows

* fix nil panic in AddToList()

* ensure list related caches are correctly invalidated

* ensure returned ID lists are ordered correctly

* bump go-structr to v0.8.9 (returns early if zero uncached keys to be loaded)

* remove zero checks in uncached key load functions (go-structr now handles this)

* fix issues after rebase on upstream/main

* update the expected return order of CSV exports (since list entries are now down by entry creation date)

* rename some funcs, allow deleting list entries for multiple follow IDs at a time, fix up more tests

* use returning statements on delete to get cache invalidation info

* fixes to recent database delete changes

* fix broken list entries delete sql

* remove unused db function

* update remainder of delete functions to behave in similar way, some other small tweaks

* fix delete user sql, allow returning on err no entries

* uncomment + fix list database tests

* update remaining list tests

* update envparsing test

* add comments to each specific key being invalidated

* add more cache invalidation explanatory comments

* whoops; actually delete poll votes from database in the DeletePollByID() func

* remove added but-commented-out field

* improved comment regarding paging being disabled

* make cache invalidation comments match what's actually happening

* fix up delete query comments to match what is happening

* rename function to read a bit better

* don't use ErrNoEntries on delete when not needed (it's only needed for a RETURNING call)

* update function name in test

* move list exclusivity check to AFTER eligibility check. use log.Panic() instead of panic()

* use the poll_id column in poll_votes for selecting votes in poll ID

* fix function name

internal/cache/size.go

@@ -166,6 +166,7 @@ func calculateCacheMax(keySz, valSz uintptr, ratio float64) int {
 
 // totalOfRatios returns the total of all cache ratios added together.
 func totalOfRatios() float64 {
+
 	// NOTE: this is not performant calculating
 	// this every damn time (mainly the mutex unlocks
 	// required to access each config var). fortunately
@@ -189,11 +190,13 @@ func totalOfRatios() float64 {
 		config.GetCacheFollowIDsMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheFollowRequestMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheFollowRequestIDsMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheFollowingTagIDsMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheInReplyToIDsMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheInstanceMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheInteractionRequestMemRatio() +
-		config.GetCacheInReplyToIDsMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheListMemRatio() +
-		config.GetCacheListEntryMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheListIDsMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheListedIDsMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheMarkerMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheMediaMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheMentionMemRatio() +
@@ -201,7 +204,9 @@ func totalOfRatios() float64 {
 		config.GetCacheNotificationMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCachePollMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCachePollVoteMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCachePollVoteIDsMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheReportMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheSinBinStatusMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheStatusMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheStatusBookmarkMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheStatusBookmarkIDsMemRatio() +
@@ -212,6 +217,8 @@ func totalOfRatios() float64 {
 		config.GetCacheTokenMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheTombstoneMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheUserMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheUserMuteMemRatio() +
+		config.GetCacheUserMuteIDsMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheWebfingerMemRatio() +
 		config.GetCacheVisibilityMemRatio()
 }
@@ -466,16 +473,6 @@ func sizeofList() uintptr {
 	}))
 }
 
-func sizeofListEntry() uintptr {
-	return uintptr(size.Of(&gtsmodel.ListEntry{
-		ID:        exampleID,
-		CreatedAt: exampleTime,
-		UpdatedAt: exampleTime,
-		ListID:    exampleID,
-		FollowID:  exampleID,
-	}))
-}
-
 func sizeofMarker() uintptr {
 	return uintptr(size.Of(&gtsmodel.Marker{
 		AccountID:  exampleID,