[chore] thread_id migration tweaks (#4198)

# Description

- add a `migrations run` sub command to allow simply starting / stopping the db service, useful if you want to run *only* the migrations, both for testing or if you have a speedier box you want to run them on
- tweaks to log messages
- moved more stages outside of transactions, on sqlite if the transactions were getting too lengthy it could occasionally show an `sqlite: disk i/o error`

## Checklist

- [x] I/we have read the [GoToSocial contribution guidelines](https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/src/branch/main/CONTRIBUTING.md).
- [x] I/we have discussed the proposed changes already, either in an issue on the repository, or in the Matrix chat.
- [x] I/we have not leveraged AI to create the proposed changes.
- [x] I/we have performed a self-review of added code.
- [x] I/we have written code that is legible and maintainable by others.
- [x] I/we have commented the added code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas.
- [ ] I/we have made any necessary changes to documentation.
- [ ] I/we have added tests that cover new code.
- [x] I/we have run tests and they pass locally with the changes.
- [x] I/we have run `go fmt ./...` and `golangci-lint run`.

Reviewed-on: https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/pulls/4198
Co-authored-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>
Co-committed-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>

internal/db/bundb/migrations/util.go

@@ -417,7 +417,7 @@ func getModelField(db bun.IDB, rtype reflect.Type, fieldName string) (*schema.Fi
 }
 
 // doesColumnExist safely checks whether given column exists on table, handling both SQLite and PostgreSQL appropriately.
-func doesColumnExist(ctx context.Context, tx bun.Tx, table, col string) (bool, error) {
+func doesColumnExist(ctx context.Context, tx bun.IDB, table, col string) (bool, error) {
 	var n int
 	var err error
 	switch tx.Dialect().Name() {