[bugfix] use a much shorter refresh limit for statuses with polls (#2453)

* specifically use a much shorter refresh limit for statuses with polls

* allow specifying whether status must be upToDate in calls to Get(Visible)?TargetStatusBy_(), limit force refresh to 5 minute cooldown

* remove the PollID check from statusUpToDate()

* remove unnecessary force flag checks

* remove unused field

* check refresh status error

* use argument name 'refresh' instead of 'upToDate' to better fit with the codebase

* add statuses_poll_id_idx

* remove the definitely-not copy-pasted comment i accidentally typed out in full

* only synchronously refresh if the refresh flag is provided, otherwise do async

* fix wrong force value being provided for async

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Co-authored-by: tobi <tobi.smethurst@protonmail.com>

internal/processing/fedi/status.go

@@ -100,6 +100,7 @@ func (p *Processor) StatusRepliesGet(
 	status, errWithCode := p.c.GetVisibleTargetStatus(ctx,
 		requester,
 		statusID,
+		false, // refresh
 	)
 	if errWithCode != nil {
 		return nil, errWithCode