[chore] update dependencies (#4468)

- github.com/ncruces/go-sqlite3
- codeberg.org/gruf/go-mempool
- codeberg.org/gruf/go-structr (changes related on the above) *
- codeberg.org/gruf/go-mutexes (changes related on the above) *

* this is largely just fiddling around with package internals in structr and mutexes to rely on changes in mempool, which added a new concurrency-safe pool

Reviewed-on: https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/pulls/4468
Co-authored-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>
Co-committed-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>

vendor/codeberg.org/gruf/go-mempool/simple.go

@@ -0,0 +1,111 @@
+package mempool
+
+import (
+	"unsafe"
+)
+
+// SimplePool provides a type-safe form
+// of UnsafePool using generics.
+//
+// Note it is NOT safe for concurrent
+// use, you must protect it yourself!
+type SimplePool[T any] struct {
+	UnsafeSimplePool
+
+	// New is an optionally provided
+	// allocator used when no value
+	// is available for use in pool.
+	New func() T
+
+	// Reset is an optionally provided
+	// value resetting function called
+	// on passed value to Put().
+	Reset func(T) bool
+}
+
+func (p *SimplePool[T]) Get() T {
+	if ptr := p.UnsafeSimplePool.Get(); ptr != nil {
+		return *(*T)(ptr)
+	}
+	var t T
+	if p.New != nil {
+		t = p.New()
+	}
+	return t
+}
+
+func (p *SimplePool[T]) Put(t T) {
+	if p.Reset != nil && !p.Reset(t) {
+		return
+	}
+	ptr := unsafe.Pointer(&t)
+	p.UnsafeSimplePool.Put(ptr)
+}
+
+// UnsafeSimplePool provides an incredibly
+// simple memory pool implementation
+// that stores ptrs to memory values,
+// and regularly flushes internal pool
+// structures according to CheckGC().
+//
+// Note it is NOT safe for concurrent
+// use, you must protect it yourself!
+type UnsafeSimplePool struct {
+
+	// Check determines how often to flush
+	// internal pools based on underlying
+	// current and victim pool sizes. It gets
+	// called on every pool Put() operation.
+	//
+	// A flush will start a new current
+	// pool, make victim the old current,
+	// and drop the existing victim pool.
+	Check func(current, victim int) bool
+
+	current []unsafe.Pointer
+	victim  []unsafe.Pointer
+}
+
+func (p *UnsafeSimplePool) Get() unsafe.Pointer {
+	// First try current list.
+	if len(p.current) > 0 {
+		ptr := p.current[len(p.current)-1]
+		p.current = p.current[:len(p.current)-1]
+		return ptr
+	}
+
+	// Fallback to victim.
+	if len(p.victim) > 0 {
+		ptr := p.victim[len(p.victim)-1]
+		p.victim = p.victim[:len(p.victim)-1]
+		return ptr
+	}
+
+	return nil
+}
+
+func (p *UnsafeSimplePool) Put(ptr unsafe.Pointer) {
+	p.current = append(p.current, ptr)
+
+	// Get GC check func.
+	if p.Check == nil {
+		p.Check = defaultCheck
+	}
+
+	if p.Check(len(p.current), len(p.victim)) {
+		p.GC() // garbage collection time!
+	}
+}
+
+func (p *UnsafeSimplePool) GC() {
+	p.victim = p.current
+	p.current = nil
+}
+
+func (p *UnsafeSimplePool) Size() int {
+	return len(p.current) + len(p.victim)
+}
+
+func defaultCheck(current, victim int) bool {
+	return current-victim > 128 || victim > 256
+}