[chore] update dependencies (#4468)

- github.com/ncruces/go-sqlite3
- codeberg.org/gruf/go-mempool
- codeberg.org/gruf/go-structr (changes related on the above) *
- codeberg.org/gruf/go-mutexes (changes related on the above) *

* this is largely just fiddling around with package internals in structr and mutexes to rely on changes in mempool, which added a new concurrency-safe pool

Reviewed-on: https://codeberg.org/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/pulls/4468
Co-authored-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>
Co-committed-by: kim <grufwub@gmail.com>

vendor/github.com/ncruces/go-sqlite3/vfs/os_darwin.go

@@ -23,12 +23,26 @@ type flocktimeout_t struct {
 	timeout unix.Timespec
 }
 
-func osSync(file *os.File, fullsync, _ /*dataonly*/ bool) error {
-	if fullsync {
-		return file.Sync()
+func osSync(file *os.File, open OpenFlag, sync SyncFlag) error {
+	var cmd int
+	if sync&SYNC_FULL == SYNC_FULL {
+		// For rollback journals all we really need is a barrier.
+		if open&OPEN_MAIN_JOURNAL != 0 {
+			cmd = unix.F_BARRIERFSYNC
+		} else {
+			cmd = unix.F_FULLFSYNC
+		}
 	}
+
+	fd := file.Fd()
 	for {
-		err := unix.Fsync(int(file.Fd()))
+		err := error(unix.ENOTSUP)
+		if cmd != 0 {
+			_, err = unix.FcntlInt(fd, cmd, 0)
+		}
+		if err == unix.ENOTSUP {
+			err = unix.Fsync(int(fd))
+		}
 		if err != unix.EINTR {
 			return err
 		}